Supporting Separated Parents: Practical Solutions and Tips for Families in Transition
The issue of the family affects everyone and should be addressed regardless of political alignments and party affiliations. But it is up to governments, mayors, in general the representatives of the administrations and institutions we elect, to respond to the needs of citizens and in particular of the categories most in difficulty. Families that have separated certainly fall into these categories: the problems increase and the costs double.
After years of experience and listening to our large community of parents and children, divorceor has decided to submit to future political representatives a package of requests, a series of practical proposals to address the economic, housing, work and logistical problems that our families face on a daily basis. This is the first draft of the Decalogue that we have developed.
Activation and testing of the Bi-Parenting Register
The Register of Two-Parents established at the municipal registry office to promote the inviolable rights of children and parents.
Along with the children’s primary residential address, a second address would also be registered, that of the non-placement parent , so that the children could receive mail and communications at both addresses and that both parents could receive essential life-related communications. of your child (health services, medical-pediatric consent, signing report card, school enrollment, management of religious events, summer camps, etc.).
The register would allow you to optionally choose other sharing services such as issuing a duplicate of the health card, permission to enroll your children in sports or play activities independently, being able to individually sign ordinary school authorizations such as class photos, school trips , exemption from religion class, etc.
Waste tax relief when the child/children are at 50%
To remedy a “surreal situation” of injustice which forces both families with 50% child custody to pay the waste tax in full, we would like to propose to discount the waste tax for those parents who have their children half the time.
Creation and dissemination of a list of rent-controlled apartments
Housing insecurity is one of the first emergencies that a single parent faces and affects not only expenses but also their social and psychological condition. It is recorded that in most cases it is the fathers who abandon the marital home. Communicating a list of apartments granted at controlled rent allows you to provide a first concrete response.
Establishment of a Rental Contribution Fund for Single Parents
The separation of couples with children leads to a sudden and notable increase in expenses with a consequent general impoverishment of the family due to: splitting the home, the mortgage on the house, the rent, the utilities. The Rental Contribution Fund makes it possible to alleviate, at least in part, and for a limited period of time, the economic difficulties of single-parent families in situations of economic hardship.
Co-Living, cohabitation between Single Parents as a sustainable solution
Co-Living is proposed as a sustainable housing solution that brings single parents together in the search and sharing, even temporarily, of a home and related expenses. In this way, during the separation, parents can share expenses and spaces and not find themselves isolated and in great financial difficulty.
Discounted tickets and passes for the “Single Parent + Child” user type
Discounted fares for single parents with children would make it easier for single-parent families to use sustainable public mobility.
Free information points on alternative methods for resolving family conflicts
The information points on family mediation and assisted negotiation make it possible to disseminate possible paths for resolving conflicts, so as to act preventively on the inconveniences that exasperation can cause to all members of the family system.
Establishment and promotion in the area of a job relocation project for unemployed people over 45
A project to respond to the need for retraining and job relocation of those who are unemployed, of those who have to find a more remunerative job that allows them to support the greater expenses due to the new family situation, and of those – mostly women – who find themselves to look for work for the first time or to return to the market after a long period of absence in which they dedicated themselves almost exclusively to their family.
Free access to municipal summer centers for 1-2 weeks during the school suspension period
During periods of school suspension, single parents find it particularly difficult to reconcile family and work, especially if economic conditions are difficult. At the same time, it is necessary to guarantee the child the same opportunities as other minors to participate in educational, socializing and aggregative activities that are fundamental for their growth.
Establishment of a Fund and babysitting services that can be used free of charge by Single Parents
A fund and free babysitting services could buffer emergency situations for those who cannot count on the support of their other parent or grandparents. The single parent finds himself in great difficulty – both organizational and economic – in having to reconcile his working life with that of the family, especially if he finds himself managing sudden emergencies such as the illness of his children.
How to Help Separated Parents: Useful Tips and Insights
Parental separation is a delicate moment that can have a significant impact on the lives of the children and adults involved. In this article, we will explore several strategies and tips on how to help separated parents navigate through this phase with trust and compassion. From effective communication to managing emotions, we will address common challenges and provide practical resources to ensure the separation process is as painless as possible.
Dealing with Feelings of Anger and Sadness
Breaking up can bring up a range of intense emotions. It is important for separated parents to recognize and address these feelings in a healthy way. Finding spaces to express anger and sadness, such as through counseling or personal writing, can help prevent tension and promote a more seamless separation.
Open Communication with Children
Maintaining open communication with your children is essential during this time. Explain the situation to them in an understandable way and answer their questions honestly. Make sure they know that they are not responsible for the separation and that both parents love them.
Establish a Stable Routine
Stable routines can provide a sense of security for children during changes. Work together to create a routine that involves both parents, so that children have time to spend with each of them.
Despite the situation, try to maintain a positive attitude. Children are very influenced by their parents’ energy, so try to convey a message of optimism and hope.
Involve a Mediator
If communication between parents is difficult, consider involving a professional mediator. This can facilitate difficult conversations and help reach agreements that work for both of you.
How to Help Separated Parents: Frequently Asked Questions
How can I explain the separation to my children?
Be honest and adapt explanations to the age of your children. Assure them that the separation is not their fault and that they will be loved by both parents.
What are some signs of stress in children during separation?
Changes in mood, problems at school, isolation and irritability can be signs of stress. Remain vigilant and offer support.
Should we hide our emotions from children?
Showing emotions in healthy ways can teach children how to deal with their feelings. However, avoid intense conflict or argument in front of them.
How important is it to maintain consistency in children’s routines?
Consistency provides safety for children during times of change. Try to maintain a stable routine to help your children adjust.
How can we make important decisions for our children together, despite separation?
Involving a mediator can help facilitate discussions and make decisions that take the children’s well-being into account.
What are some ways to maintain a positive attitude during separation?
Find support among friends, family or counselors. Focus on future goals and the love you have for your children.